The next time Tami Smith of Darlington pays
respect to her late son's remains, she'll be wearing scuba gear.
She wants to take up diving to visit her son's cremated ashes, which
were part of an artificial reef placed on the seafloor Monday 2-1/2 miles
off Charleston.
"It's permanent," Smith said from the top deck of a charter fishing
boat as it steamed past Fort Sumter. "It's not like you just throw the
ashes into the wind and they are gone."
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Nancy Davis of Myrtle Beach weeps as
she buries her husband, Calvin Coolidge Davis, from aboard the
Carolina Clipper off Charleston on Monday. Eternal Reefs
incorporates human remains into reefs and places them in the
sea as a lasting memorial.
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Underwater, she'll identify the reef by mementos concreted into
it at a recent casting ceremony -- a 2001 penny that marks the year her
son took his own life, a sun medallion and an impression of Smith's
handprint.
It's not uncommon for people to take up diving or boating after their
family members' cremated remains are placed underwater, said Don Brawley,
president of Eternal Reefs, the Atlanta-based company that organized
Monday's placement of eight reefs.
"It's not like visiting a cemetery," said Brawley, whose 5-year-old
company has placed more than 200 memorial reefs at sea along the East and
Gulf Coasts. "Next time they hear about an oil spill in the ocean
somewhere it makes them more sensitive. They ... have this attachment to
the sea."
The eight reefs divers placed Monday join 25 others lowered by crane in
January 2001 off Charleston. Ranging in price from $850 to $4,000 and
weighing anywhere from 400 to 4,000 pounds, the reefs are part of a larger
state-sponsored effort to create habitats for marine life.
"It's a life that gives back," said Brad Evans of McAlister-Smith
Funeral Home, which helped organize the ceremony. "With our population
choosing cremation more and more, this just gives you another option."
Like Smith, most of the 30 people who rode to the reef site said their
family member or friend had some link to the water.
Denise Gulledge of Myrtle Beach tossed a handful of yellow carnations
and red roses overboard to mark her friend's final resting place as
someone read aloud a fitting book passage over the boat's PA system:
"We are tied to the ocean," John F. Kennedy said in his 1962 book "The
Sea." "And when we go back to the sea -- whether it is to sail or to watch
it -- we are going back from whence we came."
The flowers drifted in the boat's wake as it headed back to shore.
Gulledge said she needs two more dives to become certified. Then she
can visit the reef of her friend, Calvin Coolidge Davis, who she said
became a surrogate dad to her during the decade they were neighbors in
Myrtle Beach.
Swaying in a slight chop aboard the Mount Pleasant-based Carolina
Clipper, she and Davis' relatives shared their memories of a boisterous
and fun-loving man who served in the Navy during World War II and the
Korean War.
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Brian Ewing, his wife, Tami, and her
father, Tim McGhee, hold each other after burying Tami's
mother and Tim's wife, Donna McGhee, off Charleston on
Monday.
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Before cancer claimed his life last year at 78, he lived for
martinis, swing dancing and walks on the beach, they said.
"He loved the water. It was his big pond," Gulledge said. "Now, I just
have to figure out how to get a martini out there."